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Humans have evolved a psychological system of emotional attachment. Involuntary yet universal, regardless of culture, age or race, we get deeply and strongly emotionally attached throughout our lives. It starts with a child to its parents. And assuming our parents don’t fuck it up too much, that attachment moves beyond our parents and onto some (not all) of our sexual partners. The rise in oxytocin, serotonin, drop in testosterone levels, decreased prefrontal cortex activity—these processes are designed to get us drunk on love with Jaipur Escort Service each other long enough to at least raise a highly functioning, healthy child or two (or ten).
And so while sex is a physiological function, and in some ways, it’s no different than eating or crapping, evolution has intertwined our drive for sex (note: a drive, not a need) with our psychological needs for esteem and connection. They’re intimately linked to our ingrained system of emotional attachment. And they can’t be unlinked. Even if one manages to suppress those needs, they come roaring back in the forms of neediness and overcompensation.
That’s why even the most cold-hearted player eventually has an emotional implosion, usually at the most unexpected time. That’s why women want to be romanced and swept off their feet. It’s why we keep going on dates at Escorts Service Jaipur after a frustrating date with nothing to show for it. That’s why overuse of pornography makes you feel like a loser because while you’re getting off, you’re just reminding yourself that you’re not good enough (esteem) to be loved (connection).
Sex is not like eating, because a) you don’t die without it, and b) it’s inevitably an emotional experience when you have it. Nature has cleverly wired us this way—to put our psychological needs first and then use sex to fulfil them to trick us into sticking around and taking care of one another. Sure, we may still try to get a little sumthin’ sumthin’ on the side now and again. And sure, when we break up and feel crappy, we may go on a little sex spree to feel good about ourselves.
But that’s just it. It’s not about the sex, it’s about how we feel about ourselves. That’s the way nature made it. And it’s not changing any time soon.